I am by no means an expert and this post is based solely on my opinion and experiences in the parenting world. As parents coming from all different backgrounds, we can all agree to disagree.
We are in an ever changing world. As parents, our sole desire is to see our children become successful in their lives. There is so much influence from society and social media in regards to how one should parent and who you form your children to be. Academics, skill development and intelligence are pushed and sought after for someone to make it to the top. But, what happened to the importance of raising a better person; someone who is courteous, polite, well-mannered, and respectful to everyone around them? This responsivity falls onto none other than us – the parents.
He is the guy opening the door for you with a smile on his face, the one helping a stranger in need. He knew to give flowers on Mother’s Day or to send a card on one’s birthday without any reminders. He is an equal in relationships because he values honesty and respects your opinions – even if he disagrees with you. He was the boy who stood up for the underdog in school and was never a bully, the kid who knew to lead and not follow peer pressure. Manners were present at all the right times without reminders. These boys were blessed to be raised a gentleman.
As a mother to one young boy, and not having many positive influences in my life, I am passionate to raise him right. It would break my heart to see him fall onto the negative road I have seen many take. I am no expert and because he is still young, I may succeed or I may fail. In the end this is all part of that rollercoaster of a ride we call motherhood.
Raising a gentleman may sound intimidating and it will take time and effort on us as parents, but the final outcome will be so worth it. Based on some of my experiences and research, I have put together a small list to help achieve this goal for our boys:
1) ENCOURAGE MANNERS
2) PROMOTE GOOD LISTENING SKILLS
3) TEACH HIM TO BE A LEADER
4) TEACH HIM RESPECT
5) OFFER AN OUTLET FOR HIS ENERGY
As I raise my young boy, a way I try to put these notes into practice is by taking him on mama and son dates. Whether it be a bite to eat at our favourite bakery or bistro, a milkshake or ice cream while we share laughs, or flying down the slides at his favourite park. I will always make time to show him the way to becoming a gentleman. It is there where he will learn his manners, how behave in public, learn to be patient, how to listen, and how to not only resect me, but any woman he meets as he gets older. The more kids we have, the more effort will need to be made for one on one time.
I challenge you to take some time with your boys individually and go one a “date”. Not only is it amazing to see the world through their eyes, but it is also amazing to know that we as mama’s we have the power to make these boys the gentlemen we know they can all be. One day, he will be taking a special someone on a date, and you will feel nothing but pride knowing you raised a true gentleman.
Photography – Crystal Marie Sing Photography
My clothing – Hunnis
Lennon’s green hoodie – Tiny Button Apparel
Location – Fort Langley
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